More Than "I'm Fine"

Why I started a monthly Women’s Circle and what to expect if you come along

I created these circles because I was craving something deeper than the conversations we often have in everyday life.

I found myself longing for spaces where, when someone asked, "How are you?", I could give the real answer—not just "Fine, thanks." I wanted more honesty, more depth, more meaningful connection. A place where people could show up as they truly are, without feeling the need to be perfect, polished, or have everything figured out.

I've always loved listening to people's stories and hearing the different ways we experience life. Again and again, I've found that when we slow down and create space for real conversation, we discover that we have far more in common than we realise.

For me, circle is an opportunity to explore what it means to be human—to learn about ourselves and one another through sharing, listening, reflecting, and simply being present. It's a reminder that we don't have to carry everything alone, and that there is something deeply nourishing about being witnessed and accepted exactly as we are.

For generations, across cultures, women have gathered together to share stories, wisdom, grief, laughter and care. While the shape of those gatherings may have changed over time, the need for connection remains the same.

My monthly women's circles honour that tradition while offering something that can feel increasingly rare in modern life: a chance to pause. A space away from the roles we carry and the expectations we place upon ourselves. A place where you don't need to host, perform, advise, achieve or hold everything together.

We gather in a cosy, nurturing space in North London, usually as a group of 6–10 women of different ages, backgrounds and life experiences. At the centre of the circle, flowers and candles create a simple focal point, reflecting the theme of the gathering and grounding our time together.

To support a deeper level of sharing and listening, we agree some guidelines such as:

Confidentiality — what is shared in the circle stays within the circle.
Non-judgement — every woman is welcomed with openness, compassion and respect.
No fixing or advising — we listen wholeheartedly, without trying to solve, rescue or change another person's experience.

We begin with a simple candle-lighting ritual. Each woman is invited to share a word, a sentence, or simply a breath of truth about how she arrives.

From there, the circle unfolds naturally. I may share a poem, reading or reflection connected to the theme, followed by gentle prompts and questions to explore together. There are opportunities to share in pairs, in the wider group, or simply to listen.

Although I facilitate the gathering, I sit within the circle rather than above it. I am there to hold the space, while also being part of it.

Every circle develops its own unique rhythm, shaped not only by the theme but by the women who are present and what they bring on that particular day. No two gatherings are ever quite the same.

There is no expectation to have the right words, a compelling story or profound insight. There is no pressure to be vulnerable, emotional or "interesting." You are welcome exactly as you are.

Alongside conversation and connection, there is space for quiet reflection, journaling (do bring a notebook and pen), and for the softer inner voice that can so easily be drowned out by the busyness of everyday life. A little gentle breathwork, meditation and movement are woven throughout, helping to regulate the nervous system and create a sense of ease and presence.

Above all, this is a space to be heard — fully, without interruption, judgement or expectation — and to offer that same gift of presence to others. It is a space for connection, self-discovery and belonging. While it is not therapy, many find it to be therapeutic.

If you feel called to join, I would love to see you! 

Click here to book for the next Women’s Circle with Cobi